Writer's Thoughts: Fun Fact

 Writer's Thoughts: Fun Fact

Writer's Thoughts: Fun fact -- Being polyamorous does not mean having multiple partners or that a polaym person is out there having sex with multiple people. To be polyamorous is to have the capacity to develop close romantic, platonic, or queerplatonic, flirtationships, situationships, or comet relationships with multiple people. You're polyamorous whether you have 1 partner or 10 partners or no partners. 

Polyamory is about the ability to love multiple people, not about whether or not you are currently involved in intimate relationships with multiple people. Read that again -- it's about the ABILITY TO... the freedom, the openness -- all of the things that monogamists tell you is wrong or not allowed in a relationship.  Polyamory = relationship based. Swinging = sex-based. Two different things, although you can be one, the other, or both, and there is some overlap in the lifestyles.

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Non Monogamy Reading and Follow List

 

A. I've personally read all of these and recommend them to anyone in any sort of ENM

relationship as these were all recommended to me at some time or another over the years:

• The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy 

• Polysecure by Jessica Fern

• More Than Two  by Franklin Veaux

• Polyamory and Jealousy: More that Two Essentials Guide

•  I Hate You Don't Leave Me by Jerald J. Kreisman

• Designer Relationships by Mark Micheals (for all ENM LS)

• Alpha Female Bible by Michelle Martin (all types of relationships - the healthy kind for the more dominant woman)

•  Swingers Little Helper by Georiga Fuchs (for swingers)

• Unfuck Your Intimacy: Using Science for Better Relationship, Sex, and Dating by Faith G Harper PHd.

• Happy Life in an Open Relationship by Susan Wenzel

B.This list I have not personally read but see them mentioned all the time in ENM groups:

(I will try to update them as I read them)

• Building Open Relationships by Liz Powell (geared towards poly and swingers)

• In Bed With Strangers by Casey Donatello (this is mostly for swingers)

• A Few is the New Two: Real Stories of Non-Monogamous Relationships by Zohar Carmi

• Swingers Lifestyle: The Questions You are Afraid to Ask by Jackie Melfi (swinger based)

• Ethical Cheating: Exploring the Swingers Lifestyle by Tracy Riley (geared towards swingers)

• Anxiety in Relationships for Couples by Katrina Simon

• Open Thinking in a Closed World by Chad Spencer

• Mono in a Poly World (this one is for someone who is mono with a poly partner)

• Master Your Attachment Style by Scott A Young

• The Smart Girls Guide to Polyamory by Dedeker Winston 

• Polyamory and Kink by Jess Mahler (this is actually from a series of poly books by this author)

• Boxes and How We Fill Them: Basic Guide to Sexual Awareness by Kristen Lilla 

• Spiritual Polyamory by Mystic Life

• What Does Polyamory Look Like? By Alice Ladas

• Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

• The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola

• The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola 

• Dealing with Difficult Metamours by Page Turner

• Ask Me About Polyamory by Tikva Wolf and Sophie Labelle

• Stories from the Polycue by Tikva Wolf and Elisabeth Sheff 

• Playing Fair: A Guide to Non Monogamy for Men Into Women (for the ENM Men)

• Want to Share by Jenna Riley 

• Open Monogamy: A Guide to Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement by Tammy Nelson 

• Ethical Non-Monogamy: What is Open Relationship? by Lilly Lewis 

• The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory by Francoise Simpere 

• A Geeks Guide to Unicorn Ranching by Page Turner (for couples looking for another partner/triad)

• It’s Called Polyamory by Tamara Pincus (a guide about coming out)

• Eight Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory by Cunning Minx 

• Unfuck Your Boundaries by Faith G. Harper

• When Someone You Love is Polyamorous by Dr Elisabeth Sheff 

C. I also recommend the following as they discuss a LOT of the topics we all bring up here:

• Poly.Land is a great page although they are pushing their Discord and Patreon a lot lately their FB still is a great resource. 

• Their website - Poly.Land

• Lavitaloca Sawyers has a page that you can follow that discusses all forms of poly and making transitions from one form to another and how to navigate the different relationship dynamics. 

• PolamFam on YouTube

• Boldly Grow on YouTube

• Normalizing Non-Monogamy on Spotify 

• The Swing Nation on Spotify 

• Their Facebook Group

• Making Polyamory Work - Spotify

• US Consensual Ethical Non Monogamy Meet and Greet Facebook group (this one is mine!)

D. And if poly / ENM related fiction books are your thing:

• Polyamory: When One to One is Not Enough by Abby Gold

• A Choice Between Two by Sagan Morrow (this is a series, this is book 1)

E. Or if memoirs/biographies are your thing:

• Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s) by Sophie Lucido Johnson

• Essays on Love, Sexuality and Polyamory by Autumn Seave 

• Polyamorous Love Letters v 1-4 by Samantha Cauliflower

• Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory by Page Turner

I hope this helps you or someone else here! 

** links will lead you to Amazon. I am part of the Amazon Associate program and get a kickback should you make a purchase. 

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