Work In Process : Just a Little Something

 I've mentioned a few times I've been in a bit of a writer's slump lately. I have been staring at the same drafts for moons now, unsure of what to do with them, where to take the story, blah blah blah.... 

I thought a lot of it had to do with the fact that I had a lot of work published that I no longer loved. So, I removed it with the idea that I would tell the stories behind them. Now, that is just sitting in drafts, not because I don't love the idea of having an autobiographical anthology of sorts, but it's been more of a time issue with all of the things going on in life.

Every once in a while, a blurb of an idea will come from my keyboard. This is one of them. I am not sure what I am going to do with it yet. If I should create a new story, new character, new everything or, if this should be inserted into the already started tale that's been sitting patiently for me to add to it. 

We shall see. Unlike some writers who sit and crank out tales from start to finish with a story in mind (this happens, but it is rare for me) I tend to get ideas, and write them. Little scenarios, write them. Then, they all come together as a puzzle into a tale to be told. 

It's a weird way to work, I know that. And probably why it takes me so long to get anything done. But that is okay, I am not in any sort of a race here. 

So, here we go. I published this little gem on my Tumblr this morning. 

A Little Something

I'm in the mood for slow, passionate morning sex. You know the kind where you edge to the point of no return, only to stop just as the tip remains. I hear your breath before it becomes the calm against my skin. We shake the night's sleep from our minds as you fill me with every inch of your cock. My body arched against yours, feeling your balls against my cheeks. The pleasure from feeling every inch of you and knowing how deep you are gets the juices flowing. 

You start moving with long, slow strokes, making sure I feel every inch of you inside me, over and over again. Let’s see how long it takes before you go a little faster, and I’m begging you to let me feel you cum inside of me as your cock twitches and throbs against my flesh......... 

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Writer's Thoughts: Fun Fact

 Writer's Thoughts: Fun Fact

Writer's Thoughts: Fun fact -- Being polyamorous does not mean having multiple partners or that a polaym person is out there having sex with multiple people. To be polyamorous is to have the capacity to develop close romantic, platonic, or queerplatonic, flirtationships, situationships, or comet relationships with multiple people. You're polyamorous whether you have 1 partner or 10 partners or no partners. 

Polyamory is about the ability to love multiple people, not about whether or not you are currently involved in intimate relationships with multiple people. Read that again -- it's about the ABILITY TO... the freedom, the openness -- all of the things that monogamists tell you is wrong or not allowed in a relationship.  Polyamory = relationship based. Swinging = sex-based. Two different things, although you can be one, the other, or both, and there is some overlap in the lifestyles.

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Non Monogamy Reading and Follow List

 

A. I've personally read all of these and recommend them to anyone in any sort of ENM

relationship as these were all recommended to me at some time or another over the years:

• The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy 

• Polysecure by Jessica Fern

• More Than Two  by Franklin Veaux

• Polyamory and Jealousy: More that Two Essentials Guide

•  I Hate You Don't Leave Me by Jerald J. Kreisman

• Designer Relationships by Mark Micheals (for all ENM LS)

• Alpha Female Bible by Michelle Martin (all types of relationships - the healthy kind for the more dominant woman)

•  Swingers Little Helper by Georiga Fuchs (for swingers)

• Unfuck Your Intimacy: Using Science for Better Relationship, Sex, and Dating by Faith G Harper PHd.

• Happy Life in an Open Relationship by Susan Wenzel

B.This list I have not personally read but see them mentioned all the time in ENM groups:

(I will try to update them as I read them)

• Building Open Relationships by Liz Powell (geared towards poly and swingers)

• In Bed With Strangers by Casey Donatello (this is mostly for swingers)

• A Few is the New Two: Real Stories of Non-Monogamous Relationships by Zohar Carmi

• Swingers Lifestyle: The Questions You are Afraid to Ask by Jackie Melfi (swinger based)

• Ethical Cheating: Exploring the Swingers Lifestyle by Tracy Riley (geared towards swingers)

• Anxiety in Relationships for Couples by Katrina Simon

• Open Thinking in a Closed World by Chad Spencer

• Mono in a Poly World (this one is for someone who is mono with a poly partner)

• Master Your Attachment Style by Scott A Young

• The Smart Girls Guide to Polyamory by Dedeker Winston 

• Polyamory and Kink by Jess Mahler (this is actually from a series of poly books by this author)

• Boxes and How We Fill Them: Basic Guide to Sexual Awareness by Kristen Lilla 

• Spiritual Polyamory by Mystic Life

• What Does Polyamory Look Like? By Alice Ladas

• Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

• The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola

• The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola 

• Dealing with Difficult Metamours by Page Turner

• Ask Me About Polyamory by Tikva Wolf and Sophie Labelle

• Stories from the Polycue by Tikva Wolf and Elisabeth Sheff 

• Playing Fair: A Guide to Non Monogamy for Men Into Women (for the ENM Men)

• Want to Share by Jenna Riley 

• Open Monogamy: A Guide to Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement by Tammy Nelson 

• Ethical Non-Monogamy: What is Open Relationship? by Lilly Lewis 

• The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory by Francoise Simpere 

• A Geeks Guide to Unicorn Ranching by Page Turner (for couples looking for another partner/triad)

• It’s Called Polyamory by Tamara Pincus (a guide about coming out)

• Eight Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory by Cunning Minx 

• Unfuck Your Boundaries by Faith G. Harper

• When Someone You Love is Polyamorous by Dr Elisabeth Sheff 

C. I also recommend the following as they discuss a LOT of the topics we all bring up here:

• Poly.Land is a great page although they are pushing their Discord and Patreon a lot lately their FB still is a great resource. 

• Their website - Poly.Land

• Lavitaloca Sawyers has a page that you can follow that discusses all forms of poly and making transitions from one form to another and how to navigate the different relationship dynamics. 

• PolamFam on YouTube

• Boldly Grow on YouTube

• Normalizing Non-Monogamy on Spotify 

• The Swing Nation on Spotify 

• Their Facebook Group

• Making Polyamory Work - Spotify

• US Consensual Ethical Non Monogamy Meet and Greet Facebook group (this one is mine!)

D. And if poly / ENM related fiction books are your thing:

• Polyamory: When One to One is Not Enough by Abby Gold

• A Choice Between Two by Sagan Morrow (this is a series, this is book 1)

E. Or if memoirs/biographies are your thing:

• Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s) by Sophie Lucido Johnson

• Essays on Love, Sexuality and Polyamory by Autumn Seave 

• Polyamorous Love Letters v 1-4 by Samantha Cauliflower

• Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory by Page Turner

I hope this helps you or someone else here! 

** links will lead you to Amazon. I am part of the Amazon Associate program and get a kickback should you make a purchase. 

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Happy to Report: She Writes Things - Anthology Update

 

I tell you what.... time sure has flown by since my last post. I don't even know how that happened. But I do know the anthology isn't ready yet. 

I have removed all of the separate works (books) from the retailer's sites. I had to wait a period for all of those to be removed and am happy to report that they are all gone. 

That was important because if I were to have those lingering and tried to upload the anthology, the retailers, Amazon especially, would ping me for duplicate and/or plagiarized content, and it would turn into this giant headache.

While I have all of my documents in Word and saved to an external hard drive and on the cloud, I put them all into one large Google Doc. Easy for me to edit and work on using whatever device I wanted. 

Well, with a document that long, my spell checker and Grammarly were playing very ugly with each other, and it was slowing down the typing and editing process, causing a large amount of frustration. 

I then decided to go back to using Seequill, only to have them send out a memo that they were permanently closing. 

Awesome. 

I finally upgraded my Scrivener, but I only have it on the desktop. Once I am done with my day job, I don't want to sit here in the office any longer. So, my next step, I guess, is to get it on the laptop too. 

It's been really frustrating trying to clean up all of these documents and get them together into one cohesive unit to put back up for sale. I cannot move forward with writing until this project is off my desk. 

It is coming. Eventually. The anthology. New books. New reads.

 New stuff. It. Is. Coming. 

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Changes Are Coming

                                                                Photo Credit: Pinterest

Never, ever be afraid of change. 

I sit here writing this post well into New Year Eve, knowing tomorrow brings a whole new year with so many opportunities to share some more words. 

I have been writing little bits here and there, but not the way I used to over the years. For the longest time I thought it was writer's block but when I published the latest story this year, I realized, it's not just writer's block. It's that I don't want to write what I used to write. I am not that writer anymore. 

I don't want to use another pen name like so many others do. I don't want to start over as someone else. 

So, I have decided it's time to take those old stories out of the catalog. Put them in an anthology. Tell the stories behind the stories. Leave the newer ones published and continue forward fresh and new. Writing the things you want to write - longer stories. Poems. Prose. 

And that is exactly what I am going to do. 

I have this amazing story that I have been working on for the last year and I feel like this is what is holding me back. It's time. 

See you in 2022! 

~Erin 

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Happy to Report | "Just Stay" is Now Live

 

Writing Status Update: So, after stressing over typos... I *think* we are good to go. If not, oh well, here we are anyway. "Just Stay" is now live. So, here we go : https://amzn.to/35jeumF

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Happy to Report | The Chosen Cover

Writing Status Update: And, that is a wrap from me for tonight. After fighting with my brain over an $29 image, I scrapped the other cover and found one that actually was a scene from the story. So, here we are. Just a few tweaks and it will be ready. Now, I just need to format the document and upload everything to the publishing sites. But that, well that is going to have to wait for another night. I am tapping out.  

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